Question
I recently met a woman I like very much, but the problem is that she has a boyfriend. I do not want to mess up her life, because I also know she likes me very much, and that unsettles her somewhat in relation to her boyfriend.
I really like spending time with her, but I do not want to hurt her by destroying her relationship without knowing what would happen between us afterward.
I never talk about them. I told her I do not get involved with women who are taken, and that I never know where life as a couple will lead when something begins. I have promised nothing, and I just do not want to
hurt her if she leaves her boyfriend for me and we break up someday.
So my question is: do I continue, wait, or stop, regardless of the future…?
By the way, thank you for helping me by answering my questions. It often puts things back into perspective.
Herve
Answer from Master Kosen
It is true that, in principle, I favor virtue and honor.
Kosen