Question
My partner has affairs with several people and even makes love to them at home when I am not there. We do not discuss the subject openly. I experience it as abandonment. It hurts. What can I do?
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Answer from Master Kosen
I understand that urges can be strong when we are young. Desires are one thing; love for one's dear wife is another. But he must recognize the value of your relationship and make sacrifices for it, to prove what matters to him. True love requires us to sacrifice things for it. If satisfying his passions matters more to him than the two of you, he must say so clearly and choose to leave you. In that case, you are not at all seeking the same kind of relationship.
Kosen