Question

I would like to know how to re-harmonize a situation of conflict with another person, to be more specific I live with someone and in my house we are two people and have little to say that this person is not very easy to live with, I am aware that naturally I participate with this problem because of my personality. What's more, it is not possible to move... I have to say that it is not easy to undergo constantly the presence of someone kicking away so much verbal and psychic violence... I would like to benefit from a piece of advice of yours, thank you in advance

Answer from Master Kosen

Every morning, when you're waking you, say slowly three times, with your eyes closed and visualizing the written words in front of your eyes:
Today, I am released from any bad situation. Breathe slowly on these words until they disappear in the horizon.
If you concentrate and make this every morning, the bad situation will disappear as if by magic, very quickly.
If needed, set your alarm clock a bit earlier and keep at it.

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I would like to know how to re-harmonize a situation of conflict with another person, to be more specific I live with someone and in my house we are two people and have little to say that this person is not very easy to live with, I am aware that naturally I participate with this problem because of my personality. What's more, it is not possible...



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