Question

For some years now my 19-year-old son "has turned bad"; firecracker, tags, police custody and already did 22 months in prison... I live alone with him and his sister who, by the way, doesn't cause any trouble. He drags a heavy karma and I feel impotent. It is nevertheless a good boy with whom I can have a dialogue and who respects me but he has no implication in the family life and even nothing up to the end. A true product of the "ZEP" [In France: Education System]as someone would say... I wonder to what extent the education which we give to our children influences their karma, I love him and fear for him. Gassho

Answer from Master Kosen

A single mother can't be completely responsible for the education of a child.
The relationship with the father and the relationship between the parents, even if they are separated is very important.
We have to find rites of passages for the boys and girls alike, to help them enter adulthood, otherwise they will go and do them in the street by making bullshit as they say.

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